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There’s a lot of truth in that. 

(via clarityandchaos)

To this I would like to add, “women don’t owe you shit.”

(via death-before-decaf)

Okay, like, I get this. And maybe I’m out of the loop and that’s why I don’t know this, but friendzoning is a bad thing now? Not just…a thing that happens? People don’t walk around high school halls and gossip about someone being a friendzoner the way they gossip about someone being a slut, right? Right? Like, give me a break. MOREOVER where the fuck was I when they decided that friendzoning was somehow exclusive to women? I’ve been friendzoned by MAD dudes. PLENTY of dudes. So based on my own firsthand experience (of getting rejected a lot?) I defy the implication that only boys get put in the friendzone, and only girls put them there. That shit is a two-way street.

SECOND POINT, does it seem fair that we absolutely DEMOLISH guys who get mad at girls for friendzoning them? Of course he’s mad! He got rejected. He got his hopes up, maybe for a relationship, maybe just to get laid, but whatever he was shooting for, the object of his affection turned him the fuck down. Which it is totally within her rights to do, and more power to her, but it’s totally within his rights to be disappointed, hurt, and annoyed. He’s allowed to be mad at her. Maybe I don’t understand what it’s like to be harassed or threatened by someone you’ve friendzoned because I’ve never experienced it and because my personal response would be a fat fuck you and cut a bitch out of my life in a freaking instant, so yeah, I will cede: being angry at a girl who has rejected you can get out of control. Just like any anger and grudge-holding can get out of control. But that doesn’t mean that any of that kind of anger is wrong. There have been times when I’ve been rejected and the first thing, literally the first thing, I’ve done is pick up the phone, call a friend, and spout a lot of shit about what a dick the guy is anyway. It’s just coping, and ego-repairing. It hurts when you’re not good enough for somebody, and you project that hurt and anger onto them to protect yourself. Normal. 

I got another beef: knock it off with all the “nice guy” hate. I don’t know why it’s gotten trendy suddenly to attack these poor bros who claim that they just don’t know what they’re doing wrong, but Jesus, calm down about it. I do not believe that all of these dudes are boring, entitled, whiny pricks who think women exist only to please them. Of course not. There are a lot of guys out there who are just plain unlucky in love, and it’s not their fucking fault, and it doesn’t mean they aren’t good people. Fuck…I resented the CRAP out of boys, as a species, for the many long years when none of them would date me. I would be a hypocrite to blame these “nice guys” for doing the same. I just…I feel like Coke Talk would have given the same response if some girl had written in with the same question, and that pleases me. Because the point I’m coming to is, if boys deserve to get their asses bitchslapped for daring to be sad about the fact that girls won’t date them, then we need to give the exact same treatment to all the girls (and there are fucking zillions of them) who have the EXACT SAME COMPLAINT. Bitchslaps all around. Or MAYBE it would be better if NOBODY got bitchslapped for perfectly normal feelings of insecurity and inadequacy, and instead we told EVERYONE about focusing on things that are important, pursuing interests and passions, doing whatever the fuck they want, doing well in school, building and creating a multifaceted, unique, nuanced personality, and developing an innate sense of self-worth and self-respect that isn’t contingent on what other people think of them. Cause like, yeah, women don’t owe you shit. NOBODY owes ANYBODY shit. The only person who owes you anything is yourself.

Bonnie gives me strength, indeed.

(Source: angels-and-angles, via bonniegivemestrength)